Augh, let me preface this with a little history. These past few months we have been experiencing a lot of adjustments. With Theron's new calling, and his work schedule, and this and that and I am now realizing that all members of the family have not adjusted equally so. Hunter has always been extrememly attatched to his father, and I knew this would be difficult for him. But I have now discovered to what degree this really is affecting him. So if anyone has any advice I could sure use it.
The problem: So about 3 months ago, Hunter started peeing in our backyard when he was playing. Not such a big deal you say, just part of being a boy. But no, this has slowly evolved to going over to the neighbors to pee on their grass, peeing on the front yard, on the plants, in Leah's outside dog bowl, and through the fence onto the neighbors yard. (we told him he better not go over and pee there again.) Then today I finally discovered the on going stench behind the recliner in our family room. Theron has been insisting that someone had been going behind there and peeing, but I said no. Sorry, Theron you were right. I finally got a confession after I discovered a wet snake trail in the baking soda that Theron left from an earlier clean up. What do I do? I really try to give him some one on one attention, but I am just not making any progress. So if any one has had any issues with such a behavior, I'd love to hear some ideas.
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Yeah mine is still in DIAPERS!!!! Sorry that's hard.
It is so hard to know what to do. It may be an attention thing, or it may be he is a boy. Here is some advice I recieved and will pass on to you:
Find a time out place. One that is very uncomfortable, away from toys, people, and anything he could turn into a play place. I put my kids in a corner in the garage. I leave the light off, but the door open (so it isn't completely dark). Then you sit your child down and explain that his behavior is not appropriat. We DO NOT pee anywhere in the house except in the toilet. He can choose to follow instructions and pee where he is suppose to, or he can go to time out. (If time out does not work, try to come up with a different consequence that will have an effect on him, like taking away a favorite toy, or something.) When you take him to time out, interact with him as little as possible. And when it is time to come out, don't bring it up to him. Make sure before he goes to time out that you get down on his level and look him right in the eye and say something like, "It is not okay to behave this way. You know better than to pee on mommy's floor and furniture and make messes. This makes mommy sad. You will have to go to time out now." And then put him in time out for 5 minutes, or whatever you feel is right for him. I am dealing with pee pee issues with Aubrey. She is having a hard time with a new baby taking away "her" mommy. Good Luck!! and hang in there!! I totally feel your pain. Stay strong. I will pray for you and you pray for me.
Isaac is going through an adjustment too. He's older though so he can verbalize a lot of his frustrations. (IE: Why does everyone at our church always need my dad? Why can't he just stay home with me?) sigh...
I'm no help.
Good luck!
Hey there Autumn... I found your blog on Debbies. I have a 3 year old that does the same thing. Lately I have been using the Love and Logic parenting tactics with my kids. They have some great Love and Logic books. I simple tell my little boy that I am sorry he made the choice to pee on my carpet and I put him into time out and I take away his favorite toy... When I get him out of time out I hug him and tell him how much I love him and I don't bring it up again. It has worked pretty well. Good luck. Boys are fun
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